Help With Your Mother's Rule

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Wednesday, January 22, 2014

How God Guides Us...

Dear Holly
I have a question about spiritual direction. Did you search for a spiritual director or did you just happen upon him because he was there? I am wondering how to go about finding someone. I do know a priest that has acted as a spiritual guide for me in the past so I may ask him but I don't know if his duties will allow him time for me on a regular basis.


  1. For a spiritual director, on an informal basis , you can contact a priest you know well to discuss issues of concern as they arise. It is important that these issues are related to discerning God's Will in your life or discerning His workings and direction in your life. Often times these occasional sessions are all we need.

    For a more formal arrangement, usually when one is undertaking a mission or is in a state of experiencing God in a strong way or when one senses something God is trying to say but we can't figure it out - then we give God the option of providing us with His counsel - either through the Holy Spirit's action which is discerned through serious prayer and waiting, or asking him to send us a director and being on the look-out for that chance meeting or that 'sense' that 'this is the person I am to speak to'. I have always had God determine this, and when the time was necessary, I have had strong senses of who it was He wished me to speak to.

    Another aspect about spiritual direction that I think is a serious option for us in our present culture - the large availability of books written by saints, spiritual advisers, as well as online resources.

    There are also other 'new' movements and groups in the Church that are popping up for the laity to fulfill their call to holiness - such as the Order of Discalced Carmelite Seculars, or the Franciscans Third Order, or Opus Dei, or Benedictine Oblates connected to local monasteries etc.... The formation programs of these groups who may be in your area or willing to provide long-distance formation, is also a great help to getting to know God, deepening your understanding of your calling to holiness and to your vocation, and helping you with our daily questions and concerns through the prayer, reading and study.

    So, think about which aspect of these ways God has provided in your life and what is in your location, what is possible for you to do, people who can be accessed, books that can be ordered online, and religious orders with a secular or lay person branch that can be joined, in order to be nurtured daily in God's Plan for you.

  2. I am Patty Perkowski, a Catholic Spiritual Director who works exclusively with moms. On my blog I have asked fellow Catholic moms for questions that they might have on such questions about motherhood and spirituality, children’s spiritual development, finding time for yourself, or just to learn more about Spiritual Direction; I have received one for this week that asks about the Rule of Benedict and in the answer to that question I referenced your blog