Help With Your Mother's Rule

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Thursday, June 13, 2013

Sometimes There IS Too Much To Do...

Dear Holly,
I confess I haven't finished your book yet, but I wanted to get hold of you if possible. I have a kind of different situation in that my husband and I are in our fifties, and we have one small child. My problem in a nutshell is that I am quite alone to do all the inside chores, plus gardening and watering and feeding the animals. I truly feel quite overwhelmed and inadequate. Plus, this is a huge house to keep clean, with many bedrooms and bathrooms and large living spaces. The catch 22 is that our basement and attic are loaded with plenty of junk we never use and that my husband doesn't want to give away. To make matters worse, I have a health problem and don't move too fast anymore. There also isn't a possibility of getting outside help. Needless to say, I need help! Maybe you will tell me to just keep reading!

1 comment:

  1. As you continue to read the book, begin to ask the Lord every day in prayer to show you His Will and what He wants from you. That is a good place to start. Listen carefully to what your body, your energy, your circumstances are telling you, and where you feel your heart is leading you.

    It may mean that you will need to figure out what your 'essentials ' are, and you may also need to figure out what you will need to stop. We can only do so much, and I find that in our 50s, we simply don't have the same energy we used to have. I think your health issue is also slowing you down.

    So often, it is the very circumstances that we find ourselves in that assist us in understanding God's Will. Your energy level means you have to fine-tune exactly what you must do, and what you can do, but it also indicates what you ought to do without.

    I would also imagine that, if it is just the three of you, that cleaning out and closing off some bedrooms and bathrooms, and perhaps the dining room, would assist you - reducing your living space, despite the size of the house. I have some children who have moved out and another who is going, and I fully plan to close off an entire floor! That might assist you.

    Also, you will have to have 'the talk' with your husband, as doing everything inside as well as the outside garden & animals and raise a child by yourself is simply untenable.

    If hubby cannot assist, you may need to look at larger options - selling the house, adopting a more suburban lifestyle and living with your energy limits. For like money and the need to live within our financial means, we also need to live within our energy and abilities limits.

    We can only do so much. I think it's time to look at trimming your duties and what possessions you can, to enable you to function at a level that won't exhaust you spiritually and physically.