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Saturday, April 17, 2010

Dealing with Hyper-Mode in a Mother's Rule

Dear Holly,
I find I get very serious and strict when I want to stick to the the rule. I know this will pass after we eventually get into a nice rhythm. Then I can relax with the rule and not feel stressed. Thoughts?
Posted by at 8:23 AM
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  1. Well, there is certainly nothing wrong with a 'getting-down-to-business' attitude that helps foster our determination to follow our schedules. Sometimes this is also necessary to let our kids know we are 'serious' about doing our duties today!

    However, we don't want to have this be a normal experience. we want to foster a spirit of recollection and peace in our lives. So, yes, I agree with you - once you get into a nice rhythm, this should go away.

    If it does not, add 10-15 minutes onto those sections of your rule where you tend to get too strict sounding or rushed or pressured - this will allow ample time for you to do your duty, give you time-space to function on those slower 'bad' days, and enable some free time as a little bonus reward on the good days...

    it is important to realize our output will not be the same every day of our lives, and we have to lighten the schedule to accommodate those days when we are tired, feeling draggy, or just having a down day...
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  2. I realized just the other day, that I'm not actually following the law of the "rule" I've written, but the spirit of that "rule." It has taken years to find this balance. Mainly, because I'd put so much energy into writing it and getting it to "look" just so, that I'd exhaust myself. Then, any little frustration would knock me off course as "impossible to do."

    This recognition of balance is an answer to prayer. Even if you must be serious and strict in the beginning, pray through those times that you will have a peacefulness about you. Even "pretend" to be peaceful if you must. It will carry over to your heart and mind and then, all of a sudden, you will be peacefully following your "rule."

    I am thankful to report that through following my own Rule in a balanced way, I have come to love my husband, my children, my vocation, and my home. I always thought that I did these things before, but the overwhelming joy I am experiencing now is directly related to following the Rule even through failed attempts in the past and surely in the future.

    I employ some Montessori type methods in our homeschooling. Not to the extreme, but basically as far as an orderly environment and peaceful habits. This, too, has blessed me with the ability to become more equipped to follow the Rule. With everything having a place, minimal distractions in our home environment, and grace and courtesy as part of our homelife, the Rule became much easier to present to my husband and children as "what's best" for our family. It creates peace!

    Blessings on your journey toward balance.
    Becca<><
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