Dealing With Lack of Affirmation
Dear Holly,
I was wondering if you might have any recommendation or resource you could recommend to me. I have been re-reading Dr. Baars books and find myself feeling the need for affirmation. I seem to slip into depression every few months and am wondering if this might be part of the missing puzzle. I have been to counseling for depression, to counseling for child
abuse (I was molested as a very small child), and to see a priest for healing and forgiveness. Just hoping you might have some suggestion.Labels: 2nd P Person
posted by Holly at 2:03 PM
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A Bubblegum Dilemma
Dear Holly,
Whenever we go out to eat, in spite of our attempt to be vigilant, my four year old daughter somehow manages to pull gum out from under the table and puts it into her mouth. We have tried everything that we can think of to discourage this. Any ideas? It is hard to find a natural consequence that is proximate enough to be meaningful.Labels: 4th P Parent
posted by Holly at 10:41 AM
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Husband is a Deacon
Dear Holly,
Where would you place my husband's duties as a deacon? Under the first P for him? What about my duty to support him in his vocation? This past weekend, I went on a personal retreat, but I struggled somewhat with my decision to go (my husband encouraged me to do so) because he had the children by himself the entire weekend, and he had to chant for Vespers on Saturday and Divine Liturgy on Sunday.Labels: 3rd P Partner
posted by Holly at 10:34 AM
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Beset with Worries
Dear Holly,
I am just starting out with scheduling--I am fearful of failure so I keep putting it off. My oldest , age 9 is ADHD and I know I would be stepping up to my responsibilities if I set up a schedule, beginning this summer. I hope to begin homeschooling in the fall and would like the summer to prepare. I have a lot of worries, one is my mental state--I am prone to depression and I fear that homeschooling and being confined to the home will worsen it. But I also feel that God is calling me to at least "try it". I am beset with worries ( I tend to sabatoge myself before I begin) and would like advice on how to best begin. Was there a computer program you used to set up (excel?) Is anyone out there familiar with ADHD and how best to work with it in regards with a MROL? I do feel like the devil hates the idea of a MROL because it elevates the vocation of motherhood in that it makes it a holy and sacred profession ... what it always was but our culture does not regard it as such in many circles.Labels: 2nd P Person, About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 10:05 AM
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A Mother's Rule For a Working Mom
Dear Holly,
I am re-reading MROL with great interest and am using the questions to discern, with the help of my spiritual director, what might be a useful rule to aid me on this journey of holiness. My question is this - have you had any feedback from moms working outside the home regarding things that have helped in the development and implementation of their Rules? For a variety of reasons, working outside the home in addition to being a wife and mother is where I find myself, and I hope to continue on the path to personal and familial sanctity in the midst of our particular situation. I don't imagine it's impossible, just that some of the specifics might need to be tweaked a bit to reflect the chunk of time that I'm out in the workplace (and perhaps with a different focus of finding ways to maintain a prayerful, recollected spirit in the workplace). Any thoughts that others might have shared on this topic would be most helpful.Labels: 5th P Provider, About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 9:36 AM
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Following Through on Chores
Dear Holly,
I have a specific question regarding discipline. My children are 13 (almost 14), 10 and 7. I have used a variety of charts and systems for chores. My biggest problem is having the kids follow through. What do you do in your family when a chore isn't done?Labels: 4th P Parent
posted by Holly at 9:16 AM
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Making the Best Use of the Summer for My Rule
Dear Holly,
School is over now for my family and I was wondering what hints you might have to help me use the summer to make my rule better? What can I do to make the next school year run more smoothly?Labels: About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 2:39 PM
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Help
With Your Rule
