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Help With Your Mother's Rule
Help With Your Mother's Rule is a forum for women who want trouble-shooting
help with their Mother's Rules or about any aspect of the 5 Ps of
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Holly: This blog is composed of your questions.Contact me at the address listed on Holly's Notebook page
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the more successful every mother will be in designing her own unique
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Spiritually Hot and Cold Husband
Dear Holly,
Life is finally starting to settle down after returning from the conference last week in Michigan. When I came home Saturday night after a five hour drive (during which I was so filled with the Holy Spirit!), it was to a really messy house! My husband obviously doesn't have a rule and had his hands full just feeding the kids and cleaning the kitchen, etc. So I'm back in the swing of things and so totally inspired by all I heard and learned. My husband, however, is on a completely different spiritual wavelength. I'm not sure where he "is at" right now, but I think the devil is fighting tooth and nail for his soul. I have been praying for his conversion. Even though he's a cradle Catholic, he's hot and cold in his faith. It also seems like, since I've really starting storming heaven for him, he's been more... unhappy? inconsistent? It's like I'm the mom and he's the kid rebelling against me, and God!?! He seems to have inner turmoil going on, and I could write a book about all the background on this situation, but I'll keep it short and just ask for you to pray for him. I've changed my prayer from asking for his conversion to asking for whatever graces he needs in his life right now, and I'm also praying for the graces I need in order to help him. And I refuse to lose hope!!Labels: 3rd P Partner
posted by Holly at 11:05 AM
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Learning to Simplify
Dear Holly,
It was so great to meet you this past weekend at the MCH Conference! Thanks so much for coming and sharing your time and gifts with us. We have been meeting for the past year to discuss each chapter of your book and support each other. It has been a tremendous help to me personally. When I first heard about your book from my friend, I was not interested because I had been implementing a schedule for a couple of years with my children. Then I read a review for your book on Spirit Daily and knew I had to read it. What I was looking for was in the last chapter or two of your book when you said God would come in the peace of my soul. I realized God cannot come when there is no peace. And to have peace, I needed more order. I had some order in my life, but not an all-emcompassing order that your rule proposed. One of the areas I need to grow more is in simplifying. I have felt in my soul over the last 6-12 months that God is calling me to simplify my life. I have tried to do this, but still feel I'm "floundering" in this area. I was hoping you might be able to "mentor" us a little more in this area or if you could recommend resources that may help.Labels: 1st P Prayer, 5th P Provider
posted by Holly at 2:13 PM
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Bedtime Routines
Dear Holly,
I am looking for examples of successful bedtime routine change with little children. Quite honestly, both myself and my husband are very bad at this, and all I can say is that it is obvious that we need to change before my daughter starts pre-school in the Fall! We do the "bring the kids up when we go to bed" routine, but it doesn't start until we go to bed, and that's obviously too late for the little ones-and we're so tired at that point, we could do so much better....The TV is the main problem. We throw it on after dinner to wind down and the darn thing stays on until we decide to go up to bed. I'm considering taking the kids upstairs myself at a certain time (whether Dad is ready to or not), away from the TV, and doing the quiet before bed play, etc., and then starting the routine upstairs. I think this will work out if I persevere, as my husband is a great father and will generally see what is good for the kids and follow in helping out without me saying much. I guess my question is not really, "do we need
to change?" and not "what should we do?", but how to persevere when you're so tired in the evening?Labels: 4th P Parent
posted by Holly at 9:06 PM
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Discerning Schooling Options
Dear Holly,
I will be entering my 4th year of homeschooling with my 3 children this coming school year & we love it! My oldest (12) should be chronologically entering 7th grade, but has done all of the work for that level ( as well as some for 8th grade, too) & I do think should be advanced at least to the 8th grade. (She also tested very well on her standardized tests; scoring post high school in all subjects except one where she scored 10th grade level.) Is there harm in advancing them?
Let me say that she is not only intelligent, but kind, honest, a hard worker & really wants to advance as well. I, of course, want what is best for her & know how fleeting childhood is. On the other hand, she is constantly looking at her future & talks of college, scholarships & the like. There is also the concern of Confirmation. I would obviously have to speak to our local parish, but would really want her to wait & do it the year after this, even though she would then be a Freshman (with the advancement.)
Of course, then there is the entire high school scene which isn't far off. My husband isn't too keen on high school homeschooling & I have prayed about it & feel the Lord wants this for our family - for many reasons including our family being strong together & that our 2 youngest have extensive medical isssues as well as that is where the Lord appears to be leading.
At this point, we design our own curriculum & this works well as we can work harder on certain things & advance the children in areas they excel at. I do realize that with high school, we would probably have to sign up with a program so as to make sure all is taken care of for colleges to accept the children. Any advice?Labels: Homeschooling
posted by Holly at 11:43 AM
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Too Many Variables
Dear Holly
I bought your book because I was feeling overwhelmed - I am a mom of 3 children, ages 7,2, & 2 months. I have read the entire book & am ready to author my rule ... but I have a few questions... I feel like I have no down time because my newborn is very demanding of my time (I nurse and she is on no schedule). My 2 yr. old no longer naps .... My 7 yr old is the easy one but he is gone all day at school .... I would like to start a basic at-home preschool for my 2 yr. old - any suggestions? What did you do to accommodate for a new baby in the home??? How can I schedule things with so many invariables?Labels: 4th P Parent, About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 1:51 PM
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