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Too Busy, Too Tired and Too Far Away
Dear Holly,
I am a mother and a wife and I live in South Africa. I need the best life for my children, but I always get home late and am very tired. I am working very far away and I am using public transport. I can't play with my kids after work or read them a story book, especially my 7 years old daughter. I feel like I am neglecting her and also my 13 year old boy. He does not like me that much as he likes the father. Can you give me the tips on how to do the right thing?
Labels: 4th P Parent, 5th P Provider
posted by Holly at 11:47 PM
1 Comments:
I guess as I read your email, I was wondering if you could not take a discerning look at what in your life is essential and what is not. For me, when I realized that my job was causing problems in my family, I felt it necessary to either leave work or change jobs - and we suffered the consequences of financial difficulties as a result. But I also had to trust that, if God was revealing to me areas of concern in my family - and these stemmed from my job - that God would also provide for us if I gave up the job to be more present to my children.
Now, that being said - I am not necessarily telling you to give up your job. In many situations, it is not an option for women to leave the work place - and John Paul II called this an 'economic injustice' - and one which one can become 'stuck' within. But I do think a discerning talk with your husband about other possible avenues of income and employment might be in order - or if the job itself is too vital to leave, then even looking at moving - to live closer to your work - might aid you, and provide more time with your family.
For I believe time with your family is one of your top priorities - and if bread and good meals can be put on the table without your working, and basic needs of life covered without your being away, your family needs your presence. Moms are precious to kids.
In the event that nothing can truly be changed - I would then have to trust in God to fill in where I am unable - just like the multiplication of the loaves.
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