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Help With Your Mother's Rule
Help With Your Mother's Rule is a forum for women who want trouble-shooting
help with their Mother's Rules or about any aspect of the 5 Ps of
the married vocation.
Ask
Holly: This blog is composed of your questions.Contact me at the address listed on Holly's Notebook page
and I will post questions and answers. Please share your unique ideas as well. The more ideas and experience we share,
the more successful every mother will be in designing her own unique
Mother's Rule.
Holly Pierlot
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A Mother's Rule - A Path to Contemplation
Dear Holly
.... I wanted you to know that your book is changing lives ... drawing "us plain moms" to Jesus Himself. The end of your book, where you talk about Jesus coming to you (active contemplation) was the thing that finalized my choice to draw up my own mother's rule. For I had read about this, but only imagined that it was for those who had less busy vocations, or at least, vocations where prayer times flourished. I didn't think it was possible for someone with six kids to share in this. It is something I long for.... as you say, deep intimacy with God.Labels: 1st P Prayer, About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 8:43 PM
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Finding Spiritual Direction
Dear Holly,
How do you go about getting a spiritual director? I have an amazing priest in my parish. However, I find that during confession there is not enough time to get into details. Should I tell him I need more direction and time with him outside of confession?Labels: 1st P Prayer
posted by Holly at 3:06 PM
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Vacations and a Mother's Rule
Dear Holly
How do you handle vacation time in your rule? I just got started on mine and now my family's vacation time is interfering with my schedule. When I relax, I feel a bit guilty, like I'm not doing what I should. Any words of advice?Labels: About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 9:22 AM
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How Do You Live Your Consecration?
Dear Holly
In one of your comments on the website it sounds like you have consecrated yourself to Jesus after the example of St Louis de Montfort. Does living your consecration mainly consist in living your rule? Or do you try to imitate the life of Our Mother in additional ways?Labels: 1st P Prayer
posted by Holly at 2:23 PM
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Seeking Perfection and Self-Denial
Dear Holly
I have read your posts so far about seeking Christian perfection as mothers. There's just one thing that has always disturbed me about holiness - the whole notion of 'self-denial'. I feel that if I really practiced this, I'd burn out and never have anything to look forward to again. How do you and others view this?Labels: 1st P Prayer
posted by Holly at 10:16 AM
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How Much Prayer is Reasonable for Mothers?
Dear Holly
MROL has really helped put prayer back into my life. Before kids, it was all prayer but no sacrifice, but after kids, it's been all sacrifice and little prayer! So now I am ready to live a balanced life of work and prayer and bring order into my life. This past year has been a great struggle as I have felt a great need or urge to be alone with God, but didn't know how to fit it into my hectic schedule. Now I have hope.
I have a question about how to pray. As it stands, in the morning, I do verbal prayer - the Angelus, Morning Offering and Morning Prayer (of the Liturgy of the Hours), and then I spend some time meditating and talking or listening to God . I haven't designated prayer times for the rest of my day yet, but I often get in some spiritual reading in the evening and do Evening Prayer ( although I'm not yet consistent in this).
Much of the time, I find I want to pray while I'm doing my work - you know, like a rosary during dishes. What do you think about this? How much time do you or others who are following a rule spend in 'just prayer' time, without doing other things like cleaning or showering, etc? I am attracted to the Carmelites but their rule has over 6 hours a day in prayer, and as a busy Mom, I know that's not possible. But what is reasonable for my vocation?Labels: 1st P Prayer
posted by Holly at 1:57 PM
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No Big Kids to Help Out - Rule Seems Impossible
Dear Holly
I have two daughters, a 2 1/2 yr old and a 10 month old. From one of your earlier posts about a rule with young children, it seems you can do one easily if you have older children to help out, but with my two little ones alone, this seems impossible. The 2 1/2 yr old takes a nap perhaps 3 times a week. The other days I try to get her to nap, but she sits in her crib and yells for an hour and it drives me crazy so that I can't get anything done. The 10 month old does not nap consistently, and when she is up alone, needs to be held the whole time. Some days they alternate naps so I am stuck in the house unable to do anything from 10-3 and I'm going nuts. The 10 month old gets up at 9 or 10 and goes to bed at my bedtime of 10:30, but the 2 1/2 yr old gets up at 8:30 and goes to bed at 8. Maybe I should stick them in their cribs at specific times , but I have a hard time listening to the crying, and one crying keeps the other one up.Labels: 4th P Parent
posted by Holly at 9:36 AM
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Unable to Follow a Rule
Dear Holly
I want to follow a Mother's Rule, but I just can't. I can't even get through the questions in your book.Labels: About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 11:05 AM
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Exceptions to the Rule...
Dear Holly
I am a homeschooling Mom of six, ages 15 yrs to 15 months. I have a rule written up for our family but implementing it seems almost impossible. There are constant disruptions in our life, and I don't know how to use a schedule when exceptions seem to be the rule. For example, my husband's work schedule is on a 5 week rotation, of which he works 7 nights, arriving home at 7:00 am. He likes to have the kids sleep in on those mornings so we can have a few moments alone. This changes the entire flow of our day and I never fully recover our schedule, but I want to please him and be there for him too. Lately we've been having colds and coughs and I haven't been getting much sleep, so it makes it that much harder to get everyone up and going on time in the morning. Any words of encouragement or inspiration would be helpful.Labels: About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 8:27 AM
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The Rule is Meant to be a Tool Not a Tyrant
Dear Holly
My rule is looking really good. My schedule is in place. I'm starting to organize things more in the house. I need to re-read the 5 Ps to put things back in perspective, but otherwise things are much better around my home than before. So why do I feel so depressed? Honestly, I think I'm being attacked now that I am getting my life pulled together as God wants. But still, I feel a loss of freedom. Something in me is saying that I want to go back to the way things were - that I was more free then. But I was not happy then and I was always overwhelmed. Did you go through this? What did you do to get over it?Labels: 2nd P Person, About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 8:12 AM
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Will a Mother's Rule Work for Me Too?
Dear Holly
Your website seems like such a God-send to me and I am almost crying reading it. Here is my question: I want to be a stay-at-home-mom, but I am a single mother as my husband left me while I was pregnant with my second child. Because of help from my parents, I have been able to stay at home quite a bit, but they are getting older and not able to help as much. I am starting a new business and my 2 yr old stays with me but my eldest is in school (who also begs me to homeschool). It's all too overwhelming and I guess I need to read your book , but I was wondering if it will work for me - you know, as a mom who has to work outside the home?Labels: 5th P Provider, About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 1:37 PM
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