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Helping Our Children with Our Rules
Dear Holly
I'm not sure what to do with the children - how to motivate them. I've tried MOTH on and off again for the past few years, but wasn't very consistent. Now, when I put up my new list of chores, the children just groaned...
Labels: 4th P Parent, About a Rule of Life
posted by Holly at 1:22 PM
1 Comments:
I had to chuckle when I read this -- our own consistency or lack of does have an effect on our children, doesn't it? But there's hope!
When I began my rule after many failed attempts at various scheduling methods, my kids groaned too! So I felt like I was going to have some battles, but really the kids liked it - children like order.
Because everything in a rule is 'reasoned out' beforehand, it works. And because it works, the kids and myself were able to follow it much more easily than other less thorough methods.
I also scheduled in five or more minutes around every chore section just to supervise my children's attempts and told them they had to check with me before moving onto something else.
As such, there was no calling anyone back to re-do chores; there were no further interruptions to their free time; it gave me an excuse to praise their hard work and success; and they soon saw, all by themselves, that the chore charts actually reduced their chore time.
It was only when we fell off the rule that they began to groan again, so I learned that one of the greatest gifts I could give my children was my own consistency to my rule. And if we fall off, then, just hop back on!
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